tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6380434.post112420742294480039..comments2023-09-12T09:37:46.032-04:00Comments on Alexander's Maitresse: Status. Rant.la Maitressehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11455677433703086396noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6380434.post-1124587689284673982005-08-20T21:28:00.000-04:002005-08-20T21:28:00.000-04:00Well said, Calletta. All of the kids I can rememb...Well said, Calletta. All of the kids I can remember from elementary and high school who got in trouble were testing the limits, just to evoke some kind of reaction from the parents. I'm sure they would have been even happier with a "No/Stay home/Don't do that/Because I said so" than the indifferent shrug from not one but two sets of parents (the biggest rebels/troublemakers were invariably from the wealthier families and had divorced parents). Incredibly sad.<BR/><BR/>Another gift my parents gave me -- and which we've started giving our kids -- was the ability to "blame them" for anything I didn't want to do. For example, "I can't go to Philip's party because my parents won't let me." A nice easy out at the time until I learned I could say no for myself : ) <BR/><BR/>And in the end, wouldn't you rather have a great relationship with your parents than a chi-chi Sweet Sixteen...Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17697320319544886978noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6380434.post-1124473536841864412005-08-19T13:45:00.000-04:002005-08-19T13:45:00.000-04:00I agree with Becky. It's so much easier to give in...I agree with Becky. It's so much easier to give in, thinking and hoping your kids will end up liking, loving and/or respecting you more. But that just doesn't ring true.<BR/><BR/>My parents knew how to set boundaries and limits. And they knew how to communicate with me. And when they asked one day why I'd never been a rebellious child, I told them, "You never gave me a reason." Kids without limits will push until they find a limit--the law, what have you. When parents give their kids limits, and have open discussions about what and why, somewhere deep down the kids know the parents care. As opposed to, "Aw, I can do what I want! My parents don't care!"Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13464393340517511305noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6380434.post-1124388150084529712005-08-18T14:02:00.000-04:002005-08-18T14:02:00.000-04:00I get queasy just looking at the Wal-Mart flyers a...I get queasy just looking at the Wal-Mart flyers arriving now with back-to-school clothes where the girls' t-shirts have "B-L-I-N-G" spelled out in rhinestones, etc. Ick. And parents who should know better think it's cute.<BR/><BR/>I also get annoyed with those parents who give me the "just you wait until they're older" argument (my eldest just turned 8) when in a discussion about *things* they talk about kids' rooms full of their own TVs, computers, stereos, and phones, and needing the latest sneakers. As though it's the kids who decide. <BR/><BR/>I know it's easier in the short run NOT to parent your kids. But it's the long run that scares me...<BR/><BR/>Again, yet another reason to homeschool.Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17697320319544886978noreply@blogger.com